Monday, February 24, 2014

The Best And Worst Of Me

A few weeks ago, I posted about Confidence Building, which was really just a few short paragraphs about standing up and acknowledging our good physical traits instead of always bashing ourselves for our shortcomings, whether real or imagined. Now it’s time to look at the personality traits we’re constantly complaining about.
I don’t know many moms, if any, who don’t wish for more patience, or many artists who don’t think they need to put in more time, training and dedication to their craft, or many dieters who think they have enough self-discipline. I'm always saying I need more of those things. I would venture to say that everyone out there wishes they had more of some traits and less of others.
The struggle to improve is a noble one, but not if it comes at the cost of a constant sense of worthlessness, of not measuring up to some artificial ideal.
The challenge, then, is acknowledging the areas within ourselves that can be improved upon—and working on them—but still being able to acknowledge and celebrate the parts of ourselves that are already pretty damn great.
That step is important because if all we recognize is the bad, the inferior, the mess, how can we possibly motivate ourselves to improve? Why bother? It’s paralyzing. It’s too hard, too awful to think about making changes on such a massive scale. One or two things, even three, sure. That’s doable. But everything? Come on. We might as well hang it up now. That breeds depression and we wind up in a black hole of self-contempt, in need of professional help.
Sounds like fun, right? Not!
I don’t want to wind up there, and I don’t want you to, either. (But if you already are deeply depressed, please, please, please get professional help. This is a lighthearted blog and should in no way be taken as professional advice!)
Let’s start by making a short list. Three personality traits to work on AND three personality traits we’re already proud of. An even split. Then, when working on the three that need help starts to feel tough, we can come back and look at the three good ones and be bolstered anew, because hey, those three traits are pretty awesome. Here are mine:
Three Traits to Work On
  • I’m stubborn
  • I lack patience
  • I can be selfish

Three Traits I’m Proud Of
  • I’m loving
  • I’m fun
  • I’m decisive
What are yours? Share in the comments!

Monday, February 17, 2014

Current Celebrity Crushes

Okay, I admit it. I have some celebrity crushes. Anyone who has visited my H-O-T Hero Inspiration Board on Pinterest knows that. What is it about these guys that makes them so appealing (beyond their obvious good looks)? It’s not like I know them in person. Some of them are probably jerks in real life, or have weird fetishes, or disgusting habits, just like other mere mortals. But splashed across the silver screen or the pages of a magazine, they are larger than life. They live glamorously and are almost always stylishly put together. They’re obviously talented actors, but they are often also accomplished in other ways, whether in sports, music or singing, writing, art, etc.
I imagine they smell pretty great, too.

Friday, February 14, 2014

Happy Valentine's Day!

Happy Valentine's Day to my family, friends, and readers. I wish you every happiness, today and always!

Monday, February 10, 2014

Confidence Building

I can tear myself down in less time than it takes to ruin a fresh manicure: my worst features (all of them), what’s wrong with my body (everything), my weight, my worst habits, how little patience I have, what little self-discipline, what a bad friend/wife/daughter/mother/writer I am, yadda yadda yadda. I can give you an itemized list.
How about you?
According to all the articles and studies and casual girl talk at corner bars all over the country, or even the world, it seems most women have that capability. We bond over our cosmos by commiserating with each other about all of our worst (perceived) faults. We know it’s not healthy, but we keep doing it. It’s a compulsion.

Wednesday, February 5, 2014

Happy Anniversary To Me!

Today marks my 20th wedding anniversary to the man I love with all my heart, so in honor of this momentous occasion:


I love you. Chantilly

Monday, February 3, 2014

Five Ways To Win My Heart

Last week, we talked about five general ways people show love for each other. Since Valentine’s Day is coming up, and love is in the air, this week I’m sharing five ways my hubby has shown love to me specifically.

  1. He talks about Harry Potter, and lets me talk about Harry Potter as much as I want. (Which is a LOT.) Sometimes, he even quotes the movies. We’re working on getting him through the books so he can really make me swoon with a book quote or nine.
  2. He loves the Green Bay Packers almost as much as I do, and in some ways more, since he has proven more forgiving to them over the whole Brett Favre thing than I have. And no, this is not an invitation to start an argument over whether the franchise handled that situation properly or not. My blog, my rules, and my football heart belongs to Brett first, the Packers a very close second. Aaron Rodgers still has a ways to go to win me over completely. His funny commercials are helping, and of course getting the Packers into the post season three times in a row and a phenomenal Super Bowl win… But still. I miss Brett. And I’m still mad at McCarthy and Thompson. For those of you who have no idea who or what I’m talking about, don’t worry about it! But you football fans know. And I'm still steamed.
  3. He makes me laugh. Sometimes unintentionally, it’s true, but it all counts! And he helps me laugh at myself. Also sometimes unintentionally. All’s fair in love, right?
  4. He loves me, and he lets me know it. He does all sorts of things, from small daily chores to the big gestures, to make sure I know how he feels.
  5. And the biggest one for melting my heart: He LOVES our children. He is a fantastic dad. I could toss all the rest of this list out the window (well, except for the one about loving me, too, LOL), and he would still have won my heart a billion times over.

There are many ways to win a heart, but these five are key for me.

How does your love show his feelings for you? Share in the comments!